I have written stories and poems since I was seven, and have been published in anthologies and magazines. Then, in May of 2011, four days after my 71st birthday, WiDo published my book-length memoir In the Mirror, A Memoir of Shattered Secrets that is still selling on Amazon, thanks to you, my many friends and supporters. It's been an incredible journey.

But now I have to slow down with social media (which is becoming more and more complicated) because my disabled daughter requires more care, and at my age I need to relax more and focus on the non-virtual world. I need to smell more roses, and I want to write my spiritual journey for my family and close friends. I just can't completely give up writing!

This is now my mostly static webpage. But if you comment, I'll drop by to see you. I keep my Blogging Friends blogroll so I won't lose touch. And I still read good books. I'll be watching for yours. Please keep me informed!

Monday, February 4, 2013

27th Anniversary of the Accident

It's been twenty-seven years tomorrow since my daughter Jen turned left on a green light and didn't see a small pickup heading into the intersection. About 9:15 p.m. on February 5, 1986. Her younger sister saw the truck, leaned left toward her sister, cried out ... and seconds later, crash. She had a crushed pelvis.

Jen: a closed head injury. Comatose until she finally voluntarily moved a finger ... five long months after the accident. Eleven months later she could finally talk again, thanks to skillful therapists, doctors, nurses, and many other helping hands. All of you who have followed me during the past three years and/or read my memoir In the Mirror know the story.

So I have been full-time caregiver of Jen for almost twenty-six years. She spent a year and a half in rehab at Mt. Vernon Hospital in Alexandria, Virginia. She went from here ...



to here (about nine years later) ....


And now today ... back to the world at age 47 ...

Last August, 2012: Jen at Woodrow Wilson Rehab Center in Fishersville, Virginia, about a thirty-minute drive from our house, getting a new wheelchair thanks to Virginia Medicaid. Here's she's with her friends, two excellent young therapists, and John, our wheelchair technician friend. He knows the struggle we had with the previous wheelchair. This chair is awesome and a great relief, thanks to advances in technology. It's an amazing time that we live in ... the best of times, the worst of times. This photograph illustrates the "best of times."

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What an incredible journey the past twenty-seven years have been. Difficult, yes, and more of an uphill climb as we're both getting older. But I know life wasn't meant to be easy. If it were, if we never experienced trials and tribulations, we wouldn't learn what we need to about ourselves; wouldn't have opportunities to develop patience and endurance, and learn what compassion is as we help each other.

I'm grateful that I'm still strong and healthy ... I do all I can to stay this way so I can take care of Jen. I'm so glad that she too, despite the increasing pain in her bad left foot and her aging bones, can enjoy getting out, as we did this past weekend.

Mid-January I posted about my oldest grandson, a senior in high school. He had the lead in The Importance of Being Earnest. Two days ago, Saturday evening, he was Shakespeare's King Richard III. I'm not prejudiced when I say he was BRILLIANT. Died brilliantly too!

The evil King Richard dead at last!

My grandson Tom front & center with the ensemble.


The above pictures are at Fauquier High School Shakespeare Troupe on Facebook. (Tom's three older sisters were also in the troupe. I'm a proud grandmother!) If you click this link, you'll see my grandson (left) on bended knee, and his mother, my oldest daughter, on the front row (right).

There wasn't a matinee for this play, so it was a late night for me and Jen. Very late. Thank goodness they reduced the almost-five-hour play to three hours, including a fifteen-minute intermission.

But Jen's a night owl, and I didn't mind either. I love driving home in the dark, in this case through some snow flurries that weren't bad. And traffic was light ... not as  many trucks as usual on I-81. Jen had her iPad on her lap and we listened to music, and sometimes reminisced about the evening that included ....

dinner before the play with my son, his wife, and my two youngest grandsons: six-month-old Gavin ... and very articulate, and talkative, three-year-old Connor who kept saying he wanted me to come to his house after dinner. He wanted me to play with him and his toys. We had trouble getting him to understand we had to go to the Shakespeare play. We kept saying we'd see him another day. But what's "future" to a three-year-old?!



 I tried and tried to remove the red eyes. 
They show gray on my desktop but insist on being red here. 
Frustration!


Connor's dad warned him against emptying the salt shaker!




These little boys are so awesome. I just told Talli Roland, who was out for a London stroll with her new baby, to enjoy, enjoy. They grow up SO fast.

Friday, January 4, 2013

Faith Holds the Ship Together

From Les Crane's poem "Desiderata" as quoted by one of my favorite Blogger friends Hilary Melton-Butcher: You are a child of the universe ... The universe is unfolding as it should ... Be careful - strive to be happy ...

The world is indeed difficult, as awesome author Roland Yeomans commented on my  last post of 2012 (he also put up a wonderful post yesterday). His comment:  It is a world of sorrows because we make it so. Long, long ago, we broke the terms of the lease to this world and so ended our rent-free existence and endless buffets. We must always be mindful of our surroundings now.

We must keep the faith, as romance author Denise Covey (L'Aussie) commented on my post: It has been a traumatic ending to 2012 for the US and many other nations caught up in civil war and strife. The world is indeed in turmoil. Only faith holds the ship together.

For me, it's faith in my "higher power" as I define this. Faith also in humanity. As my friend Denise concluded in her comment: Here's praying for a brighter 2013!! There are more good people than bad people but the bad people get all the publicity. I believe this. And I believe the media is a vulture, almost always emphasizing the bad.

Thus I resolve to skim the headlines so I'll be conversant with society - which is mostly now my adult children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and close friends - about what's going on in the world, but then I'll get off the internet and read the many Blogger friends' books and other classics that I've downloaded to my eReader.

I'm especially excited about the play I downloaded (for free), The Importance of Being Earnest: A Trivial Comedy for Serious People by Oscar Wilde. I downloaded it to read because my oldest grandson is Ernest in his school play. Jen and I will probably make the hour and a half drive to see the Sunday January 13th matinee. Gotta be there as Tom's a senior and this will be his last year of theater at Fauquier High School. The grandchildren grow up SO fast!

I saw the play almost four decades ago with my first husband, so I do need to revisit it. I also read the commentary of it on Wikipedia and printed a description of the three acts. Wiki calls it a satire that Wilde manages to both engage with and to mock.

The play is filled with sparkling dialogue. As I'm reading it, I'm thinking how I'm better with dialogue than description. A memoir I'm trying to write about me and my brother is filled thus far with mostly dialogue. So as I'm stuck at this point as to how to finish it, I'm thinking: simply write scenes as they come to mind, like a play. Worry about filling in descriptive details later. Might work....

Whatever you're doing with your own writing, I hope it's working.


And may you have a happy and productive New Year. Jen echoes the sentiment from her wheelchair where's she's playing her favorite Bookworm and listening to CDs.